Saturday, March 12, 2011

MAXIMIZE YOUR SINGLENESS

Joyce, thanks for inspiring this article

My Thoughts!! I wonder why the status “single” is not a state of pride for youth, but a status to avoid because of shame; this is very common among we females. I’ve seen several “relationships” but to me they are just bondages, where I’ll feel like asking “Is it a do or die affair?” Please let’s reason together, is being single a disease? What does it suggest to most of us, that we’re less beautiful, or less smarter or inferior….?
I’m really overwhelmed at the rate at which we youths react to the state of singleness which could be as a result of a broken relationship or maybe you’ve not yet seen the person that your heart knits. We pressurize ourselves till we end up hooking up with the wrong choice, all because of a facebook status of “married” or “engaged”…. Pardon me if I’m too harsh, but the truth must be spoken… I told someone yesterday that I don’t care how many times I try it, but my end result is living happily ever after.
The bitter truth is that you can never act or think like a single lady or man again, once you are married and hear this again, you will not know the treasure of time, resources, networking you have now as a single until you are married. So you don’t know the value of what you have till you loose it, except you MAXIMIZE it.
Being single or singleness is not a time of pity or a time to start meditating on why everyone is married and you’re not yet married. It’s a time to explore, discover and re-discover what God has placed on your inside and how you can use it to affect your world. It’s a state of being quiet within your soul, ready to hear what God is saying. “Quiet Souls, Singles Souls”, I heard this during my early years in school, when I started discovering myself in God.
God needs your mind/soul to be in a calm state as a single but the devil will always fight this and put issues like, “he doesn’t love me, like I do; he wants to sleep with me and I love him but I don’t want to, I need someone to help me to talk to him; I asked her out but she went for my friend….and all sorts, to preoccupy our mind so that we don’t connect with what God is saying.
Responsibility embraces you once you are married, your heart suddenly enlarges, for your in-laws, your friends, your relatives and your children, even the unborn ones, so a quiet soul is hard to keep to. If you cannot discover what God has called you to do when you’re single, to start and keep doing it before you get married, you might just end up living with your wishes and dreams after marriage. It is what you have started doing before marriage that has a “sure continuity” after marriage.
How to maximize your singleness
*      Be happy you are single.  It’s as simple as ABC. Happiness is the first key to attracting any positive thing to one’s life. Someone dear to me taught me this, years back “I’m happy with me”. Even after all your friends are married, still be happy. It’s about you and no one else.  People will always say something, so don’t even give attention to the “hiss drops”. Keep working on yourself and keep preparing, you don’t graduate from the school of preparation; you’ll keep getting better everyday.
*      Be productive: Add value, is it business or service to community, just add value. Hear this, every man/woman, would love to marry someone that is highly productive, it gives a sense of “independency”. It tells that you are an ASSET. Also, add value to lives around you, be a giver, be a multiplier, let your spouse meet you in the field exploring your creativity, because we are all born with it.
*      Be a Visioneer: I will keep saying it, the best of your time is now that you are single. Let this time be your developing phase, lay all the foundations you can for your future. No man has  been called to discover your vision for you, don’t let it ever cross your mind that your spouse will be the one to discover your purpose for you, you might end up marrying one without any, because you will attract your type. If you have a vision, don’t make the mistake of marrying someone without one because of pressure, he will end up distracting you from the one you discovered, he can’t embrace it, because he does not have one. No one sees your vision more than you.

There are still many more ways to maximize your singleness, but let me wrap up with this. Equip yourself, feed your dreams, whilst you are still single because the night comes when Children shall be round about your table and all you will have as a vision is to see them live for God.

I am single and I’m so happy with me. There’s no marriage that is worth trading your singleness for except that which you’ll have with God’s will and your choice for your marital life. Any relationship that keeps draining your vision and not feeding it, is not meant for you, quit it and stay single till your godly spouse comes in contact with you.

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