DOES GOD STILL SPEAK ON WHO TO MARRY?

In the beginning how was it?

It was God who realized the need for man not to be alone (Genesis 2:18), this shows that God is interested in marriage. God now thought of how he can meet this need, he said, “...I will make a helper who is just right for him (NLT)”. God still speaks on who to marry but how many people are waiting on Him for whom to marry?

THE PLACE OF CHOICE AND THE PLACE OF GOD’S WILL

The kind of choice we make as individual is based on our value system. What we get attracted to depend on our internal makeup which comprises of our environment, our upbringing, our belief etc, while what gets attracted to us mostly depends on our outward appearance first, and then the internal makeup follows.

“Romans 12:2 NLT Don’t copy the behaviour and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect”

God gave us the power of choice; we have the ability to choose anything we want, this is an ultimate privilege man has ever gotten from God irrespective of man’s belief. Our decision about anything solely rests on us. However, Romans12:2 make us to understand that we need to be able to discern the good, acceptable and perfect will of God. This tells us that as much as we have the power of choice, there is also a place of God’s will; at this point we are aligning our choices with God’s plan for our lives.

THE POWER OF CHOICE

After God had realized the need for a helper for Adam, God went ahead to form the wild animals and livestock from the ground (Adam was also made from the ground), then God brought them to Adam to see what he would call them and whatever he calls them is their name. Adam named all the animals and the bible recorded that there was still no helper just right for Adam Genesis 2:20

Was God expecting Adam to find a helper out of the animals? So if the long-necked giraffe, or the beautiful whale or any of the good-looking monkeys, were attractive enough, Adam would have chosen a helpmeet from them and God wouldn’t have had any influence on that decision. That’s how powerful our ability to choose is, whatever we choose to do becomes ours, we live with it, we move with it, it’s our choice and it becomes our life.

Adam didn’t find any of the animals attractive to him; he didn’t find what he was looking out for in his helpmeet in them, so he was left alone still. Now the question is what framed up Adam’s choice? How did he come to the state of having what he’s looking for in a helpmeet, what built up his choice? 

Find out what builds our choice in our next post here. 

Remain Blessed

MAXIMIZE YOUR SINGLENESS

Joyce, thanks for inspiring this article

My Thoughts!! I wonder why the status “single” is not a state of pride for youth, but a status to avoid because of shame; this is very common among we females. I’ve seen several “relationships” but to me they are just bondages, where I’ll feel like asking “Is it a do or die affair?” Please let’s reason together, is being single a disease? What does it suggest to most of us, that we’re less beautiful, or less smarter or inferior….?

I’m really overwhelmed at the rate at which we youths react to the state of singleness which could be as a result of a broken relationship or maybe you’ve not yet seen the person that your heart knits. We pressurize ourselves till we end up hooking up with the wrong choice, all because of a facebook status of “married” or “engaged”…. Pardon me if I’m too harsh, but the truth must be spoken… I told someone yesterday that I don’t care how many times I try it, but my end result is living happily ever after.

The bitter truth is that you can never act or think like a single lady or man again, once you are married and hear this again, you will not know the treasure of time, resources, networking you have now as a single until you are married. So you don’t know the value of what you have till you loose it, except you MAXIMIZE it.

Being single or singleness is not a time of pity or a time to start meditating on why everyone is married and you’re not yet married. It’s a time to explore, discover and re-discover what God has placed on your inside and how you can use it to affect your world. It’s a state of being quiet within your soul, ready to hear what God is saying. “Quiet Souls, Singles Souls”, I heard this during my early years in school, when I started discovering myself in God.

God needs your mind/soul to be in a calm state as a single but the devil will always fight this and put issues like, “he doesn’t love me, like I do; he wants to sleep with me and I love him but I don’t want to, I need someone to help me to talk to him; I asked her out but she went for my friend….and all sorts, to preoccupy our mind so that we don’t connect with what God is saying.

Responsibility embraces you once you are married, your heart suddenly enlarges, for your in-laws, your friends, your relatives and your children, even the unborn ones, so a quiet soul is hard to keep to. If you cannot discover what God has called you to do when you’re single, to start and keep doing it before you get married, you might just end up living with your wishes and dreams after marriage. It is what you have started doing before marriage that has a “sure continuity” after marriage.

How to maximize your singleness

      Be happy you are single.  It’s as simple as ABC. Happiness is the first key to attracting any positive thing to one’s life. Someone dear to me taught me this, years back “I’m happy with me”. Even after all your friends are married, still be happy. It’s about you and no one else.  People will always say something, so don’t even give attention to the “hiss drops”. Keep working on yourself and keep preparing, you don’t graduate from the school of preparation; you’ll keep getting better everyday.

      Be productive: Add value, is it business or service to community, just add value. Hear this, every man/woman, would love to marry someone that is highly productive, it gives a sense of “independency”. It tells that you are an ASSET. Also, add value to lives around you, be a giver, be a multiplier, let your spouse meet you in the field exploring your creativity, because we are all born with it.

      Be a Visioneer: I will keep saying it, the best of your time is now that you are single. Let this time be your developing phase, lay all the foundations you can for your future. No man has  been called to discover your vision for you, don’t let it ever cross your mind that your spouse will be the one to discover your purpose for you, you might end up marrying one without any, because you will attract your type. If you have a vision, don’t make the mistake of marrying someone without one because of pressure, he will end up distracting you from the one you discovered, he can’t embrace it, because he does not have one. No one sees your vision more than you.

There are still many more ways to maximize your singleness, but let me wrap up with this. Equip yourself, feed your dreams, whilst you are still single because the night comes when Children shall be round about your table and all you will have as a vision is to see them live for God.

I am single and I’m so happy with me. There’s no marriage that is worth trading your singleness for except that which you’ll have with God’s will and your choice for your marital life. Any relationship that keeps draining your vision and not feeding it, is not meant for you, quit it and stay single till your godly spouse comes in contact with you.

SAVE IT: IT'S NOT UR'S TILL.....

Save it: it's not yours, till you are married

It's so unfortunate that today people don't longer trace marital problems or issues to their past, i mean their past deeds where issues like that are related. But the truth cannot be traded for anything, Sex is beyond the flesh coming together, it's an affair in the soul and the spirit. A passage in the bible, precisely in Leviticus says that the life of a man is in his blood, and you'll bear me witness that it's blood fusion when it comes to sex irrespective of condom usage.


The point of orgasm is a stage that can't be controlled by any man no matter how smart you are, once you get there, you are being held till there's a release. And this explains the fact that something else apart from the flesh coming together took place. So, if it can't be explained in the physical, that means it's in the higher realm which is spiritual.


During sexual intercourse, there's an exchange of life, remember the blood is been exchanged and this same blood is life, so each party picks the life of each other, both the blessings and the curses, and there's a manifestation in the physical.


Now remember that fornication is a sin, and sin is of the devil and the devil does not give good gifts, so don't expect the blessings from this exchange, because the devil is in charge. All the misfortunes and badlucks and even consequences of sinning as been equally passed one to another all because of a 3mins pleasure.


Now, you went ahead and marry, and you put your innocent patner, that's if you find one, at risk of sharing the lives with people he/she never had contact with and the problem begins.
I know you are saying it that repentance will cure it, yes it will but a genuine one and also a breaking from those ties and links, for a happy ending ever after.

I'm a witness of this, though i'm not yet married but i'm free...


Yes we can have it, a happy married life, if only we can pay the price.

God bless you.